Is A Substance Abuse Problem Tearing You And Your Family Apart?

  • Are you a parent who fears you’ve lost your teen to drugs and alcohol?
  • Are you driving away the ones you love because you can’t control your addiction?
  • Do you continually make promises to quit, but always go back to using?
  • Do you fear you or your teen will ruin your lives or even die at the hands of drugs or alcohol?
  • Do you long to banish substance abuse from your life, but fear change is impossible?

Whether you’re the parent of a teenager who’s suffering from addiction or are personally fighting an ongoing battle with your own substance abuse problem, drugs and alcohol are undoubtedly destroying the peace and harmony of your household.

Perhaps you are an adult struggling to break free from an addiction. You might find drugs and alcohol provide you with comfort when you’re feeling down – they don’t judge you or ask anything of you and can even seem like your best friend at times. However, your substance of choice may actually be your worst enemy, wreaking havoc on your family life and career. At work you might experience decreased productivity, often arriving late or not showing up at all. Your relationships are probably not doing well either. You might act hostile and aggressive when confronted about your substance abuse and lash out at those around you. You might disappear from home for several days to go on a binge, only to return home to a resentful partner.

Alternatively, if your teen has started to experiment with drugs and alcohol, you might have noticed unsettling behavioral changes. Your teen might be acting defiant, obstinate and withdrawn, perhaps missing school on a regular basis, coming home reeking of drugs or having repeated encounters with police. Perhaps you worry your teen is going to overdose or will become a runaway. You may cry yourself to sleep thinking you’re a bad parent and desperately ache to get back the child you once knew. However, you may fear your teen’s substance abuse is beyond your control.

Regardless of your situation, by now you might have hit rock bottom, having burned more bridges than you can count. Your greatest fear may be that you’ll eventually die alone and destitute under a bridge somewhere, and you may not know how to or if you can stop. You may long to have someone take you by the hand and tell you that everything is going to be okay, but fear people won’t want to get their hands dirty with your addiction.

You’re Not The Only Family Struggling with Addiction

Substance abuse tears apart families, destroys relationships and careers and can result in severe physical harm and even death. However, substance abuse isn’t just for junkies and derelicts shooting up in dark alleyways. Substance abuse affects people from all walks of life, whether you’re a Wall Street banker, college professor or stay-at-home mom. You may think you’re alone in your addiction, but chances are you know at least one other person who abuses drugs and alcohol.  

Regardless of status or background, you’re probably ready to break free from drugs and alcohol for good. Thankfully, substance abuse counseling can help you or your teen move toward recovery.

Substance Abuse Counseling Can Restore Balance, Happiness and Peace

When you’re struggling with an addiction it’s easy to feel isolated, alone and helpless. However, you don’t have to continue to struggle alone. By choosing to help yourself through substance abuse counseling, you’ll have a professional, compassionate therapist at your side who knows and understands what you’re going through. I will never judge you for the mistakes you’ve made or the people you’ve hurt. I will work with you wherever you are in your relationship with drugs and alcohol, whether you’re threatened by homelessness or are a high-functioning addict with a successful career.

During your treatment we’ll use a variety of modalities to help you heal, including cognitive-behavioral therapy. In sessions, I’ll help you examine and transform any negative thoughts and perceptions you have about the world, yourself and those around you. By learning to adopt a more positive outlook on life you can begin to stop turning to drugs and alcohol whenever you feel stressed, vulnerable, anxious or depressed. We can also identify your triggers – who you use with, when you tend to use, and why you use – and find strategies for mitigating situations in which you might be tempted to abuse drugs and alcohol. As your substance abuse counselor, I can teach you coping skills that you haven’t used before. I can also help you to replace drugs and alcohol with healthy, healing activities like volunteerism, exercise and community engagement. We can talk about your bigger goals in life and work on increasing your self-esteem by honoring your strengths and innate capacity for compassion. The ultimate goal will be for you to become the full, embodied person you are meant to be.

If you’re trying to help a teen struggling with addiction, I use many of the same strategies outline above. In teen sessions, I endeavor to build trust and rapport. I help teens understand that drugs and alcohol have real consequences and pull back the curtain on the false perception of invincibility.

Substance abuse counseling can help you or your teen break free of drugs and alcohol. You can begin to rebuild your relationships and start living the life you always dreamed of but didn’t think was possible. With help, support and a willingness to make changes in your life, you can undergo a profound emotional, spiritual and psychological transformation. It is possible to let go of shame and guilt, make peace with your mistakes and the things you’re powerless to change and begin living an empowered and joyful life.

Perhaps you’re ready to try substance abuse counseling, but still have questions and concerns…    

I can get through this on my own. I don’t need the help of substance abuse counseling.

Up until now you may have tried to handle your substance abuse on your own but have yet to succeed. This is perfectly normal, as a vast majority of people cannot and do not quit on their own. Ultimately, significant, meaningful change will require some kind of therapy, treatment or support.

I’m afraid of going cold turkey.

If you’re worried about having to go cold turkey right away, don’t. We will work gradually toward your recovery by taking small, manageable steps each week aimed at helping you reduce the harm you’re doing to yourself and others. Each week we’ll set obtainable goals and celebrate each triumph you make along the way.

I’m afraid people will judge me if they find out I’m going to substance abuse counseling.

I create a confidential, supportive and non-judgmental environment. Unless you are a threat to yourself or others, nothing you share with me will ever leave my office. As your therapist I can help you rebuild your self-esteem and let go of shame and guilt. My hope is that you’ll begin to see that what matters most is how you feel about your self, rather than what other people think about you.

You Don’t Have To Be a Slave To Drugs and Alcohol

With the help of an empathic, supportive therapist, your family can break free from the shackles of drugs and alcohol. Please call me at (914) 434-9945. I offer a free 15-minute phone consultation and would be happy to answer any questions you have about substance abuse or my practice.